To judge soundly, you must consider others’points of view along with your own.
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Emotional intelligence is defined as the quality of being aware of one’s own and other’s emotions, and the ability to express emotions rationally. EQ benefits both you and others, as you become more capable of handling interpersonal relationships at home and work.
We Usually Consider Our Point of View
It is natural and even instinctive for us to judge things based on our point of view. It is a survival instinct because if we do not consider our health and safety first, we could not survive. Along with protecting ourselves, we as social animals also need to cohabit with others. That calls for interpersonal skills. To live with others in harmony, we need to respect and accommodate their wishes too. Emotional intelligence helps you to do both –
- Protect your own interests
- Manage relationships better
When you develop emotional intelligence, you become more self-aware, and more aware of others’ needs and emotions. That allows you to take appropriate actions to keep others happy while remaining uncompromising on your happiness.
It is simply picking up the nuances of emotions and communication signals that we often miss because we have not trained ourselves to do that. Consider how musicians pick up sounds that most of us never gave a thought about before. The sounds are there, but we do not have a trained ear.
More Information Means Better Judgments
If you are told to resolve a fight, and you only listen to the grievance of one side, can you make a sound judgment based on that? No. To make a good judgment, be it related to people or events, you need to have information from every side involved. In interpersonal relationships, you must try to see the other person’s point of view and feelings to make your judgments.
Remember that judgments are not decisions. They can be temporary beliefs. For example, if your colleague is rude to you one day, you may be tempted to tag her ill-mannered. But if you consider that the person has always been nice and polite to you, and seemed to be under great stress today, you will be able to put things in perspective and handle the problem in a better way.
Delaying Reactions to Get Time to Think
When you react to something, it is mostly without thought. It is a solely emotional reaction. However, when you respond to something, you think about it before acting on it. A developed emotional intelligence delays your reactions so that you are able to think before acting.
In a situation where you are likely to react without thinking, you can use emotional intelligence techniques to calm yourself down. When you control your emotions, you automatically begin to think more rationally. If you train yourself in delaying reactions and controlling emotions, you will find that you have more positive and healthy relationships in your personal and professional life.
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All public Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Training courses include am/pm tea, lunch, printed courseware and a certificate of completion. Customised courses are available upon request so please contact pdtraining on 1300 121 400 to learn more.